I cannot remember exactly where I learned about this phenomenon but I can remember a time I was blinded by it. I recently received a bit of criticism that shook me a little bit, despite upon first hearing it doing my best to let it go. However after sleeping on the pesky thoughts they latched onto my brain and developed into the form of truth overnight. I awoke believing every ounce of fault was not only accurate but boldly presenting itself for the world to take notice of as well. This is how my shame likes to present itself, just as loudly as I live my life. I recall spending the entire day thinking my friends were upset and bothered by my actions. Finding evidence in every breath taken between words, shift in body language, and sideways glance thrown my way. The day passed with a somber cloud hovering above. It wasn't until later in the day and some deeper thought applied to the situation I realized that the critique was merely an opinion pretending to be a truth. In addition to the fact that I was selfishly using common occurrences to reinforce the shame I placed upon myself, making it all about me. Since I thought I was at fault everything I saw was in reaction to my being at fault. This is how confirmation bias can often weigh heavy on our spirits. There is an upside to it as well. I choose to see things as signs or reminders of my irrefutable worthiness. I view each loss as a necessary removal of things to clear space for incoming greatness. I think of each setback as the required preparation before my life can reach its top speed. Equipped with these biases there is no way I can be denied anything that I want in life.
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